I would imagine many of us have at one time or another wished we were invisible. Maybe it was a certain moment we wished we hadn’t said something, wished we could say something, or just plain felt out of place in the environment we found ourselves in. It can be a very uncomfortable feeling.
What if you could spend the majority of your experiences loving what you bring to the table and relishing being seen for whom you really are? Does being seen sound exhilarating or scary?
It can be scary to allow others to see who you really are by speaking your truth, and being your authentic self. Maybe you depend on other’s approval more than you would like. You may feel judged or anticipate being judged by others that may not agree with what you’re saying or doing. Feeling vulnerable can often feel uncomfortable, keep us in our shell and hiding behind a façade we have created. But is this how you want to live, even occasionally?
Each of us possesses aspects and qualities that make us unique and special. You’ve heard this before. But you really do. And the only way to influence others in a positive way is to be your authentic self, and share who you are and what you know.
It is a practice to learn to trust yourself, and be comfortable sharing and feeling seen. Here are some ways to begin to amplify your positive experiences of being seen for whom you really are:
~ Hold the intention of how you want to feel in the company of others. Make it your priority to feel good when you interact with your friends, family, colleagues, children etc.
~ Be aware of your self-talk. Keep it positive. It won’t serve you to berate yourself in your own mind.
~ Consider the “what ifs?” What if… I can learn something of value from this interaction by being my true self? What if… I can inspire the person I’m with as they feel my power? What if… I trust that all is well and I am safe? What if… I take a deep breath, relax and just am myself?
~ Bring to mind a past experience and amp up the great feeling you had the last time you allowed yourself to be seen by another. Think of this experience every time you need a little courage.
~ Take small steps in this process. If you’ve allowed others to see very little of your true self in the past, it can be challenging to suddenly give them “all of you.” Start to speak your truth and show yourself a little bit at a time. It’s important to trust in your own process.
~ Allowing yourself to be transparent can become one of the most powerful ways you express yourself. Give yourself permission to do so. Transparency is empowering.
As you feel good about what you are offering and being, you are in alignment, which is your most powerful state of being. Alignment is where you are the inspiration to others you want to be. Alignment allows you to access information and the manifestations you desire. Alignment is where you are not in your own way and you are allowing all of your wellbeing.
Practice this way of being one experience at a time. Practice is what makes us comfortable over time and allows us to become accomplished at whatever we are trying to do or be.
It is an exhilarating feeling to walk away from an encounter with a stranger, acquaintance or someone you are close to, knowing they have seen your authentic self.
When you are your authentic self, you will love being seen.
Please share your thoughts.
© 2016. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.