Did you know that the most important thing in your life is to be happy? How does that feel to you? Is it your priority to be happy? If so, why or even why not?
Over the years, the question I am asked most often is, “why is it so important that I be happy?” The reasons are endless, and it is my favorite subject to talk about. Being happy is also referred to as being in alignment, feeling good, and even joyous.
How happy you are determines many things. It determines what you manifest, as you will always manifest what you’re thinking and feeling. How happy you are will determine if you are an inspiration to others, be it your children, friends, co-workers, or anyone else. How happy you are will determine how you’re feeling, in your mind and your body.
For many people it is easy to be happy and for many it is not. The circumstances of our lives need not dictate our level of happiness but often do. We allow others to dictate and life to interfere with our choice to be happy. Haven’t you observed or even experienced people that have a lot of conflict in their lives but still project happiness? What about the people that seem to “have it all” but still mange to be unhappy? It would appear in those circumstances that the criteria for happiness isn’t consistent, but there’s more at play here.
It is a choice to be happy. It is a deliberate act that is achieved through a practice not being dictated by what we’re currently living. We have the opportunity to make this choice and practice being happy every single time life deals us something unpleasant. And every single time someone does something and we feel bad. It’s worth saying again…Happiness is a practice and a choice we make or don’t make every day.
It is true that some people default easier to being happy than others do. Have you noticed this? Is it you? By default, I mean naturally spring back to, react most easily to, etc. For others, they default to grumpy, angry, and reactive in some way that doesn’t feel good. Whatever you practice most will be what you default to, what comes most easily. You have the capacity to become a person that defaults most often to being happy as you practice new habits of thought.
Your habits of thought, those recordings and playbacks that you run and rerun in your mind, will always determine how you feel.
Habits are something we have repeated over time. If your habits of thought don’t feel good then try new ones. For example: If there is someone in your life that you spend time in your own head feeling bad about, you are sacrificing your mood and wellbeing. You may feel they have wronged you or are simply annoying, but you have a choice in the manner you think about them. If you truly don’t like them, then switch the subject in your mind to something that feels better. This is a practice. If you care about someone but things aren’t going well at the moment, then try thinking in a more neutral way with respect to this person. In other words, don’t think specifically about the current situation you are experiencing with them. If you choose to think about them, remember why you care about this person. Think about the ways in which they add value to your life and all the things you have appreciated about them. This practiced thought can change how you feel about him or her, and have a positive affect on your own happiness.
Each of us wants to be happy don’t we? Life is more fun and we get more of what we want in every aspect. Isn’t it empowering to know that we have control over what we think about and therefore feel? Notice what your mind is replaying over and over and make the decision to practice your way to better feeling thoughts.
Better feeling thoughts will enhance your relationships and every experience in your life.
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